Having It All

Is it really possible “to have it all”? From my own experience, I have never really wanted to have it all if it pertained to having material things such as lots of money, a big house, a late model, fancy car, a huge closet filled with designer clothes, travel to exotic places and staying in luxury hotels.

For most of my life, I have always been attracted to learning more about myself resulting in numerous courses (a major in psychology), workshops and retreats, books, and even sessions with good astrologers and psychics. From all of this, I have learned that if we want to have a good life where we can honestly say, “I now have it all” then we must take the time and work it requires to first learn who we are and accept the fact that we have imperfections but forgive that and try to make ourselves better.

If we can do this and get to know, accept and love ourselves, then we have a better chance of bringing more abundance into our life such as more money, loving relationships, a happy family, or whatever else you might want that will ultimately make you happy. Fame and fortune as we all know don’t always guarantee a peaceful and happy life. Having it all for me is about love of self and others which I know is the way to achieving a sense of peace about myself. It also gives me a purpose for being on this earth at this time because if I can spread positive energy to all those people I meet then I’ve done something worthwhile. Just think what kind of world we could have if more people could change their focus on not gaining more material things but those things we can only see if we open our hearts to love rather than fear and hate.

It can be done but it won’t be easy because it will take changing how we have been taught to be be, think, and love which we are now realising is why our world is in such a mess.

Daily writing prompt
What does “having it all” mean to you? Is it attainable?

Taking A Risk

What constitutes a risk you might ask? For me it’s about doing something that could be done on the spur of the moment when suddenly I get a notion that this seems right. I guess you would call it a knowing that comes from inside you and not from the outside as on a dare or because someone has said you should do this or that. For some people taking a risk could be carried out after thinking about what they must do to attain it. That would be called a calculated risk. However, most people tend to risk doing anything because they overthink it. I have discovered that the more I think about doing something that could be risky, the less successful it has turned out.

A risk to my mind is doing something new which you haven’t done before. There is usually some fear attached to it. It could be something like jumping off a diving board into the water for the first time or climbing a mountain. Or how about crossing a street in Viet Nam where the rules around traffic and giving way to pedestrians are non-existant. I have been to this country and will never forget the first time there in Hanoi when I had to go outside my cozy hotel room and face the main round about in the centre of the city to get to the nearest coffee shop. As I waited with a couple from Britain on the curb hoping the onslaught of motorbikes would slow up and give us a chance to cross, it finally dawned on me that I had been warned about Viet Nam’s chaotic traffic but never did I think it would be like what I saw. Finally, I looked at the English couple and said, “Shall we go”? They looked at me in agreement. We stepped out into the traffic and just kept walking but keeping our eyes looking forward to the curb ahead. To our amazement, the traffic seemed to gracefully manoeuver their way around us allowing us to reach the other side safe and sound.

This was a risk to my phyical body and one I won’t forget. When I think about what risk is all about, I realise I’ve taken many in my life. In fact, doing anything new could be called a risk. My most recent risk was one I took last August when I volunteered to take on the responsibility of managing the community garden where I live. This garden was founded about fifteen years ago by a woman who saw a vacant piece of land which she wanted to make into a community garden for the residents and a nearby elementary school. Last year she decided to retire after suffering various health problems forcing her to neglect the garden. Unfortunatly, no one responded to her reaching out for someone to take it over for her. Since I was renting a plot there, I took the risk of saying that I would try to fill her shoes. I have to admit I gave it about a week’s thought before I made the committment. I had no idea what lay before me which is probably a good thing. If I had known how much of my time it would take to get the garden back into shape, I probably wouldn’t have taken on the responsibility. Now as I look back over the last eight months, I am happy to say that it’s been successful for me. I have learned how wonderful it is to work with a team of gardeners which has given me a useful purpose for being here on this planet. I feel like I am helping this community to pull together. Four of us who have formed a committee are working hard as a team which is more than enough to say in all honesty that taking the risk when no others would has paid off in spades for me. I have learned more about myself and others than I ever could have by taking the risk of reviving a dying community garden.

Daily writing prompt
When is the last time you took a risk? How did it work out?

A Shopping Spree?

These days the last thing I could ever see myself doing would be to go on a shopping spree at least for myself. I have always had difficulty in shopping by myself and for myself especially with clothes. I am most successful when I have someone like my daughter or a close friend who knows me well and is honest and not afraid to say that something I might be interested in wouldn’t look good on me.

However, I seem to have no trouble shopping for others. I was once a buyer for a retail store that sold kitchen and gift ware. I loved doing that type of buying, displaying what I bought, and having our customers buy the merchandise I had chosen. I am still doing this today in my retirement years. For the last ten years and more, I visit Chiang Mai, Thailand which has markets galore. One day I suddenly realised that I should buy some of the great clothing and other accessories I was seeing at these markets and take it home to sell. I didn’t have a clue how or where I could sell it, but somehow knew I would. I was right and it did. I am still doing it. I have no trouble shopping for this little business and seem to make good choices because just about everything sells. Somehow it’s easier for me to buy this way whereas when I have to shop for myself, it’s much more stressful. Why? Probably because I am looking at the price tag and finding it’s too expensive. Besides most of the stuff I see these days I don’t really need. I am a retired senior so I don’t need a fancy wardrobe. When shopping for my business and for others, I don’t have to worry as much about the price tag. I know my customers well enough now that I can pretty much target the price range that will work. The other big bonus is that I can make enough money buying for others to help pay for another shopping spree in Thailand.

Daily writing prompt
Where would you go on a shopping spree?

The Bangkok News

“Where your mind goes your intention goes”  – Craig Hamilton

Ever since November, when I first returned to Chiang Mai, my mind has been focussed on obtaining a copy of the Bangkok Post. For the past few years, it hasn’t been readily available in the restaurants, hotels and tourist information sites where I used to find it. I was beginning to think that it had gone the way of many newspapers in these times… extinct like the proverbial dodo.  I eventually found one copy in a small cafe which was nowhere near where I am staying. Since the odds seemed to be stacked against me for getting my hands on that one available copy in that distant cafe, I was about to give up my search. I told myself that having a break from news back home in Canada wasn’t such a bad thing. I could live with that for awhile. However, I did regret not knowing what was happening here inThailand. Continue reading

Three Things I Love About Central Viet Nam

A visit to Viet Nam was not in my plan for travel this time over to SE Asia. I had booked a round trip to Chiang Mai in Thailand for almost four months to give me just enough time to escape the worst part of a Canadian winter. On my past forays to this part of the world, I had a plan about where I would go to do visa runs to other countries and then return to Thailand until it was time to go home.. Making a plan this time wasn’t so easy as travel has become more challenging with trying to fit any kind of plan into the constant changes to each country’s visa requirments. After mulling over the various possibilities facing me, I quite suddenly woke up early one morning with my answer…it would be Viet Nam.    Continue reading